Asking the Hard Questions Can Make Things Easier
{4 minutes to read} What happens if things don’t work out between us? One thing I have learned in my career as a mediator, is that whatever question is most difficult to ask in a [...]
Divorce: A Child’s Perspective
{4:30 minutes to read} When parents make the decision to end their marriage, one of their biggest concerns is the impact that the divorce will have on their children. This is something that is almost [...]
Post-Divorce Mediation Part II: The Outcomes
{4:00 minutes to read} Paul and Naomi When Paul and Naomi divorced, Paul was working toward a Ph.D. Once completed, he was offered a prestigious position at a university two hours from his home. Paul [...]
Post-Divorce Mediation
{4:54 minutes to read} Couples who hire a divorce mediator, work toward a marital settlement agreement that addresses everything from parenting to real estate to retirement assets, and everything in between. Since divorce mediation is [...]
When Going Through a Divorce, Take Care of Your Health!
{2:18 minutes to read} Going through a separation or divorce can be incredibly stressful. People often find that in the coming days and weeks, they have more time on their hands that perhaps they didn’t [...]
Involving Your Children in Your Divorce Can Be a Critical Mistake
{2:30 minutes to read} No matter how hurt and angry you may be with your spouse, your children need both a father and a mother. Involving your children in any way as you are working [...]
Blaming Your Spouse for Ending the Marriage Can Be a Critical Mistake
{1:43 minutes to read} When Hank and Wendy first came to me to help mediate their divorce, Wendy reported that it was Hank that wanted to end the marriage. He had moved out of the [...]
Thinking a Cheating Spouse Will Get You a Better Deal Can be a Critical Mistake
{1:48 minutes to read} Many people are under the mistaken belief that they are entitled to a better financial settlement because their spouse had an affair. The reality is that even before New York adopted a [...]
Age Appropriate Parenting Plans
{3:30 minutes to read} At the 2017 Annual Conference for the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, I heard from someone who has studied custody arrangements and determined what works best for children when their [...]
The Dreaded New Significant Other, Part 3
Part III: Challenges Ex-Spouses Face When Someone New Comes into the Picture {3:18 minutes to read} In Parts 1 and 2, I discussed some of the concerns that separated or divorced parents deal with when [...]