Thinking about a Divorce? Four Reasons Why You May Not Want a Lawyer

If you are thinking about a divorce or separation, the first thing many of your family and friends will tell you is to “get a good lawyer”.

Here are four reasons why hiring a lawyer may not be the best decision:

1 – It is likely to cost a great deal of money at a time when you are trying to figure out how you will be able to afford to live separately from your spouse.

2 – Even if you find a lawyer who is interested in helping you without becoming involved in costly and hurtful legal battle, there is no guarantee that your spouse’s lawyer will do the same.

3 – Your lawyer will not be able to guarantee a specific result. All he or she can do is to try to predict what would happen if the matter was decided by a Judge.

4 – You will turn control of those things that matter most to you, including your children and your future well being, to someone who really does not know you.

If you are thinking about a divorce or separation, what you really need is someone to help you determine how to live separately from your spouse, how to raise your children in the future, and how to divide your property.

Instead of a divorce lawyer, what you really need is a divorce mediator who is specifically trained and skilled at helping you identify your needs and then helping you meet those needs.

So be careful when listening to your well-meaning family and friends. While they are certainly looking out for you, if they really want to help what they should tell you is to “get a good mediator”.