Why Is Getting a Divorce in New York So Expensive?
{4 minutes to read} I am often asked by my divorce mediation clients why it costs so much to get an uncontested divorce. My answer is that the system for obtaining a divorce in New [...]
Asking the Hard Questions Can Make Things Easier
{4 minutes to read} What happens if things don’t work out between us? One thing I have learned in my career as a mediator, is that whatever question is most difficult to ask in a [...]
I’m a Mediator, not just a Scrivener
{3 minutes to read} I received a phone call from Kelly* last week expressing some concern about the comments I made during our last session. Apparently, Kelly felt that I was taking sides when I [...]
Divorce: A Child’s Perspective
{4:30 minutes to read} When parents make the decision to end their marriage, one of their biggest concerns is the impact that the divorce will have on their children. This is something that is almost [...]
Spousal Support and the New Guidelines
{2:30 minutes to read} Before New York adopted spousal support guidelines in 2016, the amount and duration of spousal support was very unpredictable. Some awards were very generous while others were very conservative, based upon [...]
Can You Afford to Keep Your House After a Divorce?
{3:30 minutes to read} For most of my clients, the house is their biggest asset. It is often also their biggest liability. But beyond that, however, is the emotional importance. Deciding what to do with [...]
The Price for Peace
{3:00 minutes to read} Often, people come to divorce mediation under an incredible amount of stress. They know that to feel better, they need to end their marriage, and having a long, drawn-out fight is [...]
To Caucus or Not To Caucus
{3:00 minutes to read} In mediation, a caucus is a private meeting between one of the parties and the mediator. This is routinely done in commercial mediations, with the mediator shuttling back and forth between the [...]
Post-Divorce Mediation Part II: The Outcomes
{4:00 minutes to read} Paul and Naomi When Paul and Naomi divorced, Paul was working toward a Ph.D. Once completed, he was offered a prestigious position at a university two hours from his home. Paul [...]
Post-Divorce Mediation
{4:54 minutes to read} Couples who hire a divorce mediator, work toward a marital settlement agreement that addresses everything from parenting to real estate to retirement assets, and everything in between. Since divorce mediation is [...]