Divorce: A Child’s Perspective
{4:30 minutes to read} When parents make the decision to end their marriage, one of their biggest concerns is the impact that the divorce will have on their children. This is something that is almost [...]
The Price for Peace
{3:00 minutes to read} Often, people come to divorce mediation under an incredible amount of stress. They know that to feel better, they need to end their marriage, and having a long, drawn-out fight is [...]
To Caucus or Not To Caucus
{3:00 minutes to read} In mediation, a caucus is a private meeting between one of the parties and the mediator. This is routinely done in commercial mediations, with the mediator shuttling back and forth between the [...]
Taking a Hard Position During Divorce Negotiations Can Be a Critical Mistake
{1:18 minutes to read} The decision to end a marriage is painful for everyone involved. Even after couples accept that their relationship is over, the inevitable changes in their lifestyles are often difficult to cope with. [...]
Don’t Try This at Home! Part 2
{2:30 minutes to read} When couples come to me seeking divorce mediation, the first thing we do is meet for a consultation. This meeting is important because it gives clients a chance to meet me and [...]
Divorce Mediation Is Not for Everyone – Part 2
{3:42 minutes to read} When I first met Tom and Amy, they informed me that they had separated about a month earlier, and their 12-year-old daughter, Katie, was living in the marital residence with Amy. [...]
Divorce Mediation Is Not for Everyone – Part 1
{2:00 minutes to read} My office window looks out over my parking lot. The other day I happened to glance out that window while waiting for two new clients to arrive. I noticed a woman [...]
Can’t We Disagree Without Being Disagreeable?
{3:24 minutes to read} Like most people, I was deeply saddened by the events that occurred in Orlando in June, when a madman killed 50 innocent people at a nightclub. Shortly after this tragedy, someone [...]
Mediation Requires the Skills of an Educator
(2:42 minutes to read} As a divorce mediator, I find I am more of an educator than a lawyer. This is because I often work with spouses who each had a different role to play [...]
Why Mediate Maintenance?
{3:00 minutes to read} I was at a mediation conference recently and listened to a presenter talk about the new spousal maintenance guidelines. This got me thinking: a spouse who chooses to not work, or [...]