7 Things Your Mediator Wants You to Know, Part 2
{2:42 minutes to read} In Part 1 of this article, we discussed 3 things that mediators want you to know before you call to make that first appointment. Here are 4 more things to think [...]
Blaming Your Spouse for Ending the Marriage Can Be a Critical Mistake
{1:43 minutes to read} When Hank and Wendy first came to me to help mediate their divorce, Wendy reported that it was Hank that wanted to end the marriage. He had moved out of the [...]
7 Things Your Mediator Wants You to Know, Part 1
{2:42 minutes to read} When I tell people that I am a divorce mediator, it is usually met with a response such as, “Wow, you must have seen everything!” or “That must be a very [...]
Thinking a Cheating Spouse Will Get You a Better Deal Can be a Critical Mistake
{1:48 minutes to read} Many people are under the mistaken belief that they are entitled to a better financial settlement because their spouse had an affair. The reality is that even before New York adopted a [...]
Trying to Work Out a Settlement on Your Own Can be a Critical Mistake
{2:18 minutes to read} Many couples feel that they can save money by working out the terms of their settlement agreement on their own. That is rarely the case. First, most couples end their marriage [...]
Thinking with Your Heart Instead of Your Head Can Be a Critical Mistake!
Critical Mistake # 1: Thinking with Your Heart Instead of Your Head! {4:06 minutes to read} The decision to seek a divorce or separation, in most cases, is a difficult one. It is often preceded [...]
The Dreaded New Significant Other, Part 3
Part III: Challenges Ex-Spouses Face When Someone New Comes into the Picture {3:18 minutes to read} In Parts 1 and 2, I discussed some of the concerns that separated or divorced parents deal with when [...]
Leaving the House Before a Divorce Agreement Is Reached Can Be a Mistake
{2:38 minutes to read} A spouse leaving the house is often one of the reasons couples wind up in court. Even if the two of you have talked about things and believe you have an [...]
The Dreaded New Significant Other, Part 2
Part II: The Conversation About Concerns {3:18 minutes to read} In my last blog, The Dreaded New Significant Other, Part 1 – The Possibility, I talked about the challenges parents sometimes face after a separation or [...]
The Dreaded New Significant Other, Part 1 – The Possibility
Part I: The Possibility of a New Significant Other {3:00 minutes to read} Co-parenting can be challenging enough without adding a 3rd (or 4th) party to the mix! It’s not easy to see an ex [...]