6 Factors to Consider When Considering a Divorce
As I have said before, I believe that couples who are seeking a legal separation or a divorce do not have a legal problem; rather, I believe they have a practical problem that has legal [...]
Judicial “Approval” of Divorce, Part II
Many divorce lawyers, as well as divorce mediators, did not agree with my suggestion in a recent blog post that a couple be allowed to obtain an uncontested divorce without court approval (Judicial “Approval” of [...]
I Hate Daddy’s New Girlfriend
In my previous blog I addressed the idea of creating a “dating agreement” for a couple who had ended their marriage but who were still living together. Today I would like to discuss a related issue. [...]
Still Living with Your Soon-to-Be Ex? A “Dating Agreement” Might Help
Many of my clients have been “separated” from their spouse for quite some time, even though they are not living apart. I am talking about couples who decided long ago that their marriage was over, [...]
Preliminary Private Planning Sessions – Do They Work?
I just attended the Annual Conference of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation (NYSCDM) where I heard the keynote speaker, Forrest (Woody) Mosten, discuss “47 Things” every mediator should know or do. One [...]
Grandparents and Divorce
As the grandfather of four, I could not imagine my life without my grandchildren. And I believe the feeling is mutual. That is why I am saddened whenever I read a court case about a [...]
What’s in a Word?
In order to keep up with the current divorce law in New York, I subscribe to a variety of services that contain summaries of recent cases. Many of these cases involve custody of children and [...]
The Three Legged Stool of Divorce
I have often thought that there are three components that need to be addressed when a couple is ending their marriage: Legal Financial Emotional All three need to be managed during a divorce or a [...]
The “Best Possible Outcome Under the Circumstances”
When I meet with prospective clients for the first time, I almost always hear them say that all they want is a “fair” agreement. Nobody ever wants to take advantage of their spouse or achieve [...]
Ending Your Marriage? How to Tell Your Children
Many of my divorce mediation clients want to know how and when to tell their children that the marriage is over. The information I have outlined below was taken, with permission, from my friend and [...]